Week 4 Blog

For this assignment, I learned that others are others to communication to well. During the assessments, my husband and my best friend said that they enjoyed when I speak to others in public. Both said that I am people oriented, and I enjoyed speaking and listening to others. My husband tells me all the time that I should have went into public speaking. I speak often at local board meeting and I am the training officer for my agency. I enjoyed listening to others and being able to give feedback to their questions and comments. Communication is a vital part of the relationships that we have with others. I try to look people in their eyes when talking to them. I teach my children never to look down when talking always give eye contact and listen to everyone opinion. This assignment was very helpful to me.

Communication and Culture

In my opinion, cultural differences cause everyday relationships hard to have effective communication. I communicate differently with different people, to my friends, I give hugs, kiss,smiles, and different facial expressions and to strangers, I often say hello or hi. Every situation cause for a different perspective because it may be the language, tradition, or a world issue that causes a lack of communication between the two. I believe that people communicate differently because of cultural differences and things that are related. I am not able to communicate to someone about the presidential election if they are not aware of what is going on or they speak the same language. Communicate is important but can be very challenging when there are barriers. We communicate with those that we feel comfortable around as well. When communicating we must learn culture rules about communication.

Communication is not always straightforward!

For this week's blog assignment I chose to watch a sitcom, that I would not advise anyone to let their children watch if they are trying to teach them good communication skills among family members, peers or other adults. I watch Family Guy for the first time in its entirety.

 

 

Sound Off Observations

  

As a watched with the sound off I notice the family lips moving and facial expressions where as if they were excited and happy  to sit at the breakfast table together at one point and sitting on couch together. The wife hugs the husband, the mother kisses the baby and the sister and brother were conversing back and forth. The dog even had good body language, excitement in the facial expressions. The family gave each other I contact, there were hand gestures, hugs, kisses,  and soft touches. By just looking at the screen with no sound one would think that this is a normal, functioning family with good communication skills which is loving. From looking at the screen and hearing no sound, you would think that the family communicates well together with good language, listening and non-verbal skills.

 

Sound on Observations

 



When I watch the show with the sound on, I found myself in aw of the communication between the family members, there were ugly remarks toward each other, the husband was affectionate toward the wife, the baby seemed to hate the mother by the tone of his voice, the sister and brother argued throughout the show. The dog seemed the be one with the positive remarks, eye contacts, and good body language. The dad would try to belittle the daughter during the breakfast table, and the baby called the mother out of her name. The communication for this family was very dysfunctional and there was a lack of positive verbal communication, eye contact, and the body language much better between the dad and the mother. Once I watch with the sound, I had a different opinion about what I head from the family. Being able to hear what someone say really makes a difference.

 



Competent Communicator



Every since I was about twelve years old I have known a competent communicator. Ms. Blackburn who is a pioneer in my community, she is 82 and is still a good volunteer in our community. She know how to listen, hear, understand and share with you. Ms. Blackburn smiles with everyone, hugs small children and others. She is a excellent listener. She looks you into your eyes when you are talking, sometimes pats you on your back and she gives you great feedback. She worked in the head start program where I work as the nutritionist. All of the parents and children loves her. I enjoy hearing the questions and positive comments that she gives to the parents about any concerns they may have concerning allergies, picky eater, diet, and substitutions. Ms. Blackburn accepts that not everyone is going to agree but she does not show any negative body languages, eye contact or voice tones. Ms. Blackburn talks with knowledge and wisdom and when she starts to talks everyone begins to sit and listen.

I find that a competent communicator is able to communicate through both verbal and non verbal communications by smiles, laughter, honesty, eye contact and good body language. I hope that when I am 82, I am able to be just like Ms. Blackburn. I have learned that different communications can be very difficult to understand such as written communication, such as text or letters. I have learned that some people voice tone is just loud and boisterous but there is no harm. I am willing to learn how to communicate to others in all ways rather it is oral or written.